Boy_Drummer had an excellent post today. Read it and see something of what women want.
I wish more people could hear and understand (and take to heart) what
he’s
saying. I’ve been thinking in the last few weeks of how many
examples I see of boys in the Church not being taught by their parents
to honor girls,
or how to go about it. Often this lack of training comes out in
an eagerness to start “relationships” (i.e. tell a girl he likes her)
without any way to
promise commitment. It’s a selfishness, a willingness to pursue
what
“I” want regardless of the consequences, that pervades an entire
generation. If you’re fifteen, there’s no way you can promise
forever–your crush probably won’t even last the five+ years it will
take until you can commit–so
quit playing with her heart! I don’t care if she likes it, she doesn’t know anything yet!! I’m nearly fifteen years
older than that, and I
still don’t understand my reactions to men. As a Christian, it’s
your God-given duty to protect her…from you, even from herself.
She’s your Sister. Honor her! Treat her with all
purity. Even if it means keeping your
feelings tied and gagged in a closet for a few years.
Unfortunately, by the time many of
these
boys reach manhood they’ve taken a swing to the other extreme and leave
the pursuing to the girl, or at least to a safe bet (and how would he
know anyway, until he tries?). That’s what I’m seeing from people
my age. A refusal to risk a dream, or pride, for the
pursuit of something good. I’m tellin’ you guys, a girl wants a
man who would rather risk his own heart than hers. It’s called
sacrificial love. It’s what Christ calls every one of us
to.
And if you don’t do it before she’s yours, how will
the woman of your dreams know that you are even capable of loving her that
way?
I want a man who knows he’s walking close to God,
who has sought the Lord regarding his desires, and is willing to pursue
me even if the going gets tough. Yes, even if I’m the one making it tough! I want him to
know I’m
the one, to know that I’m worth everything he could risk, and to be
willing to fight for me. If he’s not sure before he entangles my
heart, time to tie and gag
that attraction. Fortunately, for my heart, my daddy is a true
guardian, and he’ll either be an insurmountable barrier or a
great help to any suitors.
I want a man who knows how to die to himself, and love me as Christ loves the church.
Sacrificial love, guys…practice it, for us and for Christ. And here’s a secret: It’s almost irresistible in a man.
PennyDaisy 
You go girl. I haven’t read a post this well written and this passionate in a long time. I like it very much, and it inspired me to edit my own. I love the points you brought up.
I have a lot to say on this subject, but it is late and I fear I will misspeak…I will say this…I agree with a lot of what you say…as far as the man giving himself up for his eventual wife, this is biblical and should relate to and courtship as well…however, the Bible also says that women are to respect their husbands as Christ…how would Jesus’ heart feel if we never turn around and acknowledge Him in His pursuit of us? Respected? I think not…I think girls have to learn to turn around and tell the guys who are the real deal and really have their hearts in the right place when they are getting warmer if courtship from those guys is something they really want…otherwise, his heart is just being played with the way those girls’ are…getting your heart played with is no more fun for a man than it is for a girl…
so why should we want to pursue a girl who treats us with such disregard?
YES!!! You said it exactly perfect!! Amen. Beautiful. That’s exactly what I needed to hear ’cause I was getting discouraged. I’m not anymore though.
“Yes, even if I’m the one making it tough!” That would be it. But like I told Jenny, I was looking for a textbook answer, before breaking out the tough questions.
I do think men should treat all women with that sacrificial love…but then, I think men are supposed to treat other men and children with sacrificial love, as well…it just might look different when sacrificing for different folks…I mean I probably won’t give any of my guy friends flowers when they are down or any of my female friends a hot wheels car like I might a small boy…obviously there is much more to sacrificial love than giving materially, but you get the idea…
No…I think its really cool to tell everyone everything you feel right away so you have as many people confused and hurt as possible! Thats what I like to do. lol No your right! I totaly agree with your post. Man it is really hard sometimes to not to share your heart with whom you are fond of. But it is best if your not ready or in a posision to really commit and see it thru than you are being selfish and making a huge mess and probly messing something up that may be beautiful if you would just wait a lil while. On a side note, We need to remember Jesus is not available and no guy is perfect. I think we need to be sensative to that. Glad you posted this. Anyways Yeah im sorry I missed you guys while I was down! I will be back very soon tho. Good day!
Thank you for posting this. Getting it right on either side is so very, very hard.